As if single women didn’t have it hard enough with simply being single, but when you add in being single on Valentine’s Day, along with all the looks of pity that come with it, well, it’s just even harder. Now, the world has decided to make single life even more complicated by throwing in a pandemic. Yikes. How does one be happily single on Valentine’s Day during a pandemic? I have some ideas.

Celebrate Love
You don’t have to be in love or loved back (unrequited love, anyone?) in order to simply love the act of love. Love is grand. Love is meant to be enjoyed by everyone, even those of us single on Valentine’s Day. Celebrate it!
- Watch romantic movies
- Read a romantic novel
- Read romantic poetry
- Read a self-help book about relationships, such as The 5 Love Languages (there’s even a Singles Edition)
- Send Valentine’s Day greetings (text messages, emails, e-cards, voicemails, and/or real cards that you mail) to your FAVORITE couples telling them how much you admire their love for one another
- Write a short story about love, maybe even make yourself the lead character
- Listen to love songs

Love Yourself
This year, Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday. I dare you to dedicate the entire day to loving your single self. Show yourself the adoration you would like to receive from another person if you were in a relationship. Self-love will heighten your attitude and confidence. You don’t need a significant other. You can be single on Valentine’s Day during a pandemic by simply showing yourself some self-love.
- Send yourself flowers and include the sweetest love note
- Paint your nails red
- Wear your favorite red lipstick, even if you have no plans to leave the house
- Treat yourself to your favorite dinner delivery
- Ahead of Valentine’s Day, order your favorite chocolates (but don’t indulge until the big day)
- Lounge around in your sexiest lingerie
- Masturbate, multiple times!
- Use your expensive beauty products, lotions, and perfume—stop saving them for a special occasion, YOU are the special occasion!
- Take some sexy selfies
- Rub your feet
- Give yourself a gua sha facial
Start Planning Now
It’s February 2nd, now is the time to decide what you want to do to enjoy Valentine’s Day just as much as loving couples do. I encourage you to do a little bit of both: celebrate love and love yourself.

Get online and find a florist, figure out what you need to purchase now in order to have it in time for the holiday, and decide from which of your favorite restaurants you want to have dinner delivered. The act of preparing for being single on Valentine’s Day during a pandemic will get you excited about the holiday and having fun.
Love is for all of us, whether we’re coupled up or not. So get in the mood for Valentine’s Day. You’re going to have a great one.
Want more advice on being single? Listen to my podcast “There Are No Nice Guys.” I cover topics like breaking up, sex, dating online, and more.