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Recently, I posted this funny tweet about masturbation, making sure that I used the hashtag #SelfCare:
And the reason I did that is because I do qualify masturbation as self-care. It’s not just because you are literally tending to your sexual needs yourself. But I believe that regular masturbation and/or sex with another/other individual(s) truly is a part of one’s overall self-care routine. As far as I’m concerned, orgasms are as important to good health as proper water consumption, sleep, clean hygiene, exercise, and mental health management. Masturbation is good for you. Here’s why:
Orgasms release endorphins.
Endorphins are good for your body and help to alleviate stress and pain, both of which are burdens on your cardiovascular system. That makes having orgasms just as heart healthy as having a balanced diet. (But don’t replace one for the other, now. It’s important to have both.)
Masturbation is self-love.
Loving yourself is good for your mind, body, and soul. Fostering a healthy relationship with yourself will make it easier to foster relationships with others. It’s okay to love yourself and your beautiful body. Always make an effort to show yourself love through kindness, patience, generosity, and touch. You will benefit with a boost of confidence and the ability to interact with others in a friendly, peaceful, and mature manner.
Masturbation can make you a better lover.
The best way for you to know what you like and don’t like about sex is to experiment with yourself. Explore your body. What do you enjoy? What do you not enjoy? Discover your pleasures and boundaries. Then express these passionately the next time you are with a lover. Lovers want to please you (at least, the worthwhile ones do). Knowing what you want sexually is a big turn on. So, go ahead, and play with yourself!
Masturbation tips for women:
Women often think their own wetness is enough. It isn’t. Incorporate a body-safe lubricant into your self pleasure routine. I recommend using a water-based lube for vaginal play and a silicone lubricant for anal play. IMPORTANT TIP: Don’t use a silicone lube when using a silicone toy, in order to protect the integrity of that toy.
Use a variety of toys.
All women really should have a wardrobe of sex toys that includes, at the very least, a bullet vibrator for outer labia and clitoral action, a G-spot toy, a rabbit vibrator, a dong or dildo, and something for the anus, such as a plug, beads, or anal dildo. If you don’t own a single toy, I suggest by starting with a bullet vibe for clitoral play, then when you’re ready, graduate to a rabbit vibrator. If you have had the same toy(s) for years, now is the time to upgrade and experiment with some of the more luxurious options from the LELO brand, which is my personal favorite.
Play with your entire body.
Don’t just focus on your vagina. Touch your breasts and nipples. Massage your shoulders. Listen to music that makes your heart skip a beat. Use your imagination and create wild fantasies that help you escape your day-to-day routines. Again, you’re learning about what you like and don’t like. When you find something that feels especially good, take note of it, and drive yourself wild.
Masturbation is self-care. As you tend to your mental health, relationships, and the maintenance of a healthy diet and lifestyle, never neglect your sexual pleasure. Incorporate it into your overall self-care routine and you will find yourself happier and more satisfied with yourself and your life.