At the end of this month, I’m having my first-ever boudoir photo shoot. I’m excited and nervous. Feeling sexy when you’re divorced, rejected, and over 40 isn’t easy. I have insecurities like any other human being, but I won’t let them get the best of me or ruin my upcoming photography session. In this blog post, I’ll cover what I’ve done and what I’m doing now to prepare for a boudoir photo shoot.
First thing first, you want to find the best photographer for you. I’ve been friends for years and years with my chosen photographer Stacie Frazier of Haute Shots. Even if we weren’t friends, I would still hire her. I love her work and her brand messaging. She is 100% about female confidence and empowerment. She sees beauty in every person, and I have no doubt that she will make me feel super sexy and gorgeous.
Coincidentally, another friend of mine also has a boudoir photo shoot scheduled soon. Like me, she is over 40, divorced, and rejected. She found her chosen photographer on Instagram, appreciating this person’s talent and ability to emphasize and compliment the beauty of full-figured women.
Do your research and be selective in choosing a boudoir photographer in your area. Read reviews. Browse through their portfolio. Ask lots of questions. Book in advance and give yourself plenty of time to prepare for your boudoir photography session. Here are some more tips.
Buy Outfits Way in Advance
I mean, way in advance. Like, at least two months in advance. Planning and preparation are keys to success not matter what you’re doing. That’s how a person builds confidence—being prepared. If you want your photo session to go smoothly and you want to feel confident in front of the camera, then as you prepare for a boudoir photo shoot, I implore you to buy your outfits ahead of time. Below are some great brands and places to shop for lingerie.
While you’re at it, purchase your shoes and props in advance, too. “Props?” you ask. Yes! Props!
You can be wild and pose with a whip or a paddle, but even simple props such as a champagne glass, diary, or a feathered boa should be acquired before the day of your session. However, if you want to include fresh flowers in your photos, I recommend waiting to get those until the day of your shoot.
Try on Outfits Twice
Is there such a thing as being over-prepared? I think not, especially when it comes to a sexy photography session. As you shop for and attain your selected pieces of lingerie, try them on immediately. Then, a week or two prior to your scheduled shoot, try them on again. This way, if you’ve gained or lost weight, and the pieces fit differently, maybe less flattering than before, you still have time to replace them with new options.
In fact, practice posing with the exact outfits you plan on wearing for your boudoir photo shoot. You think Instagram influencers are naturally photogenic? Nope. They practice selfies and fitness poses a lot. That’s how they are able to nail such great pictures. You can do it, too. Your photographer will help guide you and pose you, but it would be really helpful if you practiced in advance and discovered which poses look best with which outfits.
Research Boudoir Looks
Pore over your photographer’s portfolio. Skim through the Instagram feed for #boudoirphoto. Study up on the hair and makeup of your favorite celebrities. Find inspiration and use it the day of your boudoir photo shoot.
Get Your Mind, Body, and Soul Ready
Do what you need to do to feel sexy and ready. I, myself, have increased my workouts and decreased my carb and calorie intake. That’s what works for my body type.
But I don’t want to starve myself and suffer for what should be an amazing experience. So, I have also increased my amount of positive self-talk.
I literally look at myself in the mirror and verbally forgive myself for having a belly pooch and cellulite, and then I compliment myself for being beautiful and sexy. If I practice loving myself now, I know I’ll love myself the day of my photography session.
Remember that your sex appeal and beauty are not determined by your weight, height, skin color, or whether or not you have a thigh gap. If you are preparing for your own boudoir photo shoot, I hope that at the very least you take my advice about using positive self-talk to get yourself prepped and ready.