It was always supposed to be casual. He was transparent about that. Newly divorced and feeling affection-starved, I was vulnerable and agreed to something that sounded exciting. It most definitely was. But somewhere along the way, I foolishly fell in love. He found comfort in my bed, expressing his appreciation through pillow talk and long hugs. And I, inexperienced and out of … [Read more...] about The Time I Mistook Gratitude for Love
Thoughts
9 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Alone
This is a difficult post for me to write, mainly because even though I'm single and not in a relationship, I don't suffer from sadness or loneliness, not even during the holidays. However, most single people do. It's a fact that depression increases during the holidays. And single people, especially, seem to struggle during this time of the year. I don't. So, who better to … [Read more...] about 9 Tips for Surviving the Holidays Alone
Purposely Childfree
It's a predictable scenario that I can count on to occur. I'm an adult with a uterus, and without fail, people assume I'm a mom. I'm not. "How many children do you have?" they ask. "I'm purposely childfree," I always reply, emphasizing the word "purposely." See, since the age of five, I have known that I'm not supposed to be a mommy. I'm supposed to be childfree. I had … [Read more...] about Purposely Childfree
Confession: I Totally Ghost Guys and Have No Shame About It
Before you judge me, just hear me out, please. First of all, I would never ghost a guy I was dating or with whom I was in some kind of relationship (or "situationship"). If any kind of friendship or feelings of tenderness exist between a man and myself, I would never end things by cutting off all communications with him and leaving him with no explanation (which is what … [Read more...] about Confession: I Totally Ghost Guys and Have No Shame About It
I’m at That Age
Your body begins aging the moment you're born. But man, oh, man, you really feel that process happening when you hit your 40s, like, really feel it. I should know, because I'm at that age. I'm at that age when I have to wear readers. I've developed farsightedness. From my phone to restaurant menus, I have to read text at arm's length, if I'm not wearing reading glasses. And … [Read more...] about I’m at That Age
Sorry-Not-Sorry, But I Stopped Saying Sorry
I am an extremely empathetic person, but I refuse to apologize for things that I am not sorry for. I feel like faux or forced apologies put the other person in a position where I owe him or her something, and unless I have inconvenienced, slighted, or hurt that person in some way, I don't. I'm not the only one who thinks this way. I think because the women's movement has … [Read more...] about Sorry-Not-Sorry, But I Stopped Saying Sorry